I promise you being nice is SO EASY!!!

Growing up I never really understood how people struggled to be kind.

It literally feels good!

For the people who get it, NOTHING more needs to be said.

FEELS

GOOD

Having understood that I thought:

"Why would you need any other reason besides that?!"

I eventually realized that by FAR the hardest part of all is simply FINDING the people who are actually worth your time to begin with. In other words, finding the people who are worth being really nice too.

And I don't AT ALL mean that you're withholding your kindness from others or treating people badly until you find those special gems.

But when you get to the point where you're regularly overflowing with kind thoughts and stockpiles of bliss. And you just want to release ALL that pent-up joy and radiant energy onto others.

That's when you realize just how few people there are that can actually handle it.

Without a doubt, the number one thing that prevents people from being worthy of your obscene kindness and radiant energy, is that they are all unconscious as fuck and SOLELY living from their ego.

This is something everyone can see for themselves. All you have to do is look at how nice people are treated in society. So, so, soooooooo incredibly often, the nicer you are to people, the more they will try to take advantage of you. One way or another, everyone knows this to be true, and historically this has ALWAYS been the case.

It's like having a wounded dog go to bite off your hand every time you bend over to try and help it out.

That kind of situation is not going to get you to flat out hate all dogs. But it is going to teach you that you can't always expect a dog to reciprocate or even accept your kindness.

Sometimes they just see your outstretched hand as an opportunity.

It's a similar situation with most people.

And honest to God, one of the WORST things about this is that people don't even have the self-awareness to realize what they are doing. They can't see how obvious it is that they are just trying to take advantage of you (in other words, they think they're slick). They can't see how grimy they look trying to do backflips in an attempt to manipulate you.

They can't admit (to themselves or you, anytime you do call them out on it) how malicious they are for trying to exploit others. And even worse, they can't see how they are making the world a significantly worse place by trying to stomp on the hearts of kind people.

They can't see that NOT ONLY are they choosing NOT to spread kindness in the world, but on top of that they are encouraging the few incredibly loving, compassionate, and wildly supportive people in the world to withhold their kindness from others.

They're attacking kindness from both sides!

They're spreading lies, manipulation, distrust, and deceit in the world. While simultaneously blasting a hose on all the kind, loving, light-hearted, and blissful people who are burning with a passion for life and solely want to spread their happiness out into the world.

The malicious people try to infect you with feelings of anger and distrust, all for their personal gain.

And I don't at all mean this in the despairing way that so many other people see it as, where they endlessly complain about how people are always trying to take advantage of them.

Obviously, it's incredibly unfortunate that so many people in the world operate in that egoic, self-fulfilling manner. But getting mad about it and letting it negatively change you as a person to the point where you start wanting to withhold your kindness from the world is the exact kind of behavior that will prolong the less than ideal state that the world is currently in.

It's the always overflowing with happiness kind of people that set the example and show the world that there are always great people to admire and they act as a beacon of what's to come when more people start seeing life from a less selfish point of view.

The fact that people try to take advantage of your kindness almost shows you how much they've been starved of it. It's like taking a homeless person on a shopping spree and watching as they stuff their 7 carts with nothing but food.

They've (back to talking about malicious people) been living in scarcity for so long that they can't help but try and squeeze out every last drop of your kindness. They can't see past their own ego and think about how their selfish actions negatively impact you.

It's like they ran into a little oasis after spending two and a half years in the desert and they can't help but go crazy in the little paradise they stumbled upon.

I can only imagine this is how it must look when you've been endlessly living from a state of "Me, me, me, and what can I get from this person?"

They always want more because they are always thinking about themselves.

Be Aware, But Don't Despair

But aside from having to watch out for people like that, being nice is incredibly easy.

If you like feeling good, then be nice. It's that simple.

Anything else and you're overcomplicating it.

Everyone likes to feel good. Everyone likes to be happy. And everyone with at least half a heart likes to make others feel good.

Being nice offers you ALL these things and so much more.

People don't realize that as long as you care about others (at least a little), and you actually want to see them happy.

Then the only thing left in the way is you.

Once you've settled your mind and learned to stop stressing over all the little things in life that you have no control over, then being nice becomes the most natural thing in the world.

Babies come into the world happy as fuck for a reason; it's our default way of being.

The thing that makes being nice so fun and easy is that it feels amazing for everyone involved, and it becomes a completely normal part of you simply existing in the world.

People hear "being nice" and they immediately start thinking about "doing".

Their mind goes straight to what they have to say, do, look like, sound like, and so on and so forth.

But none of that excessive flattery is necessary. In fact, that's the exact kind of behavior that fake people and people-pleasers often exhibit. The thing is, once you work on yourself, you will quickly start to realize how incredibly normal it is for you to be straight beaming with joy for absolutely NO REASON!

And that’s when you’ll instantly be able to see that being nice is as natural as breathing.

Sure, you’ll be aware you’re being nice. But even before that, when you're in that state, what you’re really doing is just releasing all that bottled-up joy and the streams of blissful emotions that you have coursing through your veins simply from living life.

There will be countless times throughout the day where you're suddenly overflowing with tidal waves of repressed joy. And just like with any other emotion, your body’s naturally going to want to find a release for that.

So often that culminates in you saying or doing something very nice for someone, thinking incredibly positive thoughts about a person, eagerly wanting to reach out to someone, itching to dish out compliments to damn near anybody, craving the need to get some exercise in, or feeling compelled to go off and create something you love.

And one of the best parts about all of this is just how often it COMPLETELY takes others by surprise.

When you're not constantly in your head complaining and worrying about things, you're going to be really happy. And as that becomes natural for you, all your interactions with others will begin to take on completely new levels of kindness and aliveness.

Before you ever even open your mouth, people will sense there's something noticeably different about you. The warm smile they can't seem to contain, the rush of comfort and joy that washes over them as they bask in your calming energy, and the pure delight you witness as a flash of childlike wonder beams across their face.

One of the things I'd always get growing up and continue to get till this day is, I'll just be going about my life, existing, and random people will ask me why I'm smiling so much. And even more common than that. People will just sense that you're in such a good mood that the moment you trade glances, they can't help but drop into a pocket of bliss as the inevitable grin sweeps across their face.

And this is what nobody realizes or ever talks about when it comes to spreading kindness.

People don't realize that you literally don't have to do a SINGLE thing.

As long as your mind is at ease and you're straight up beaming on the inside. Without fail, people will ALWAYS notice that! There's nothing else you have to do.

Just Exist

Your serene presence, and infectious joy will undoubtedly radiate outwards and immediately be felt by others. It will brighten their day, energize them, and put a massive smile on their face. It will have people feeling drawn to you and wanting to come up and talk to you even if only to bask in your calming presence for just a few seconds.

It's simply a matter of radiating joy.

If you only went through life doing that, and you never said or did another thing for a person, THAT ALONE would have a monumental impact on the world.

People think being nice requires effort when really it just requires you to be at peace with yourself. Not to be constantly fighting life and everything that you think is wrong with it.

The moment you do that, is the moment you start to fill up with SO much joy that you won't be able to help but enthusiastically share it with others. You'll feel compelled to spread your playful, lighthearted energy, the same way you'd be dying to share some really good news you just got.

If you were the last person on Earth, ANYONE can understand how you would inevitably want someone to share all those once-in-a-lifetime experiences with.

It's the exact same thing, except you're not doing it because you're lonely, you're doing it because you realize life wouldn't mean anything if not for all the wonderful people you get to share it with.

You're doing it because you ACTUALLY appreciate all the little things that make life such a one-of-a-kind and joy-filled experience.

You're appreciating every moment for EXACTLY what it is. Not constantly wishing and hoping that it was something different.

When you're going about your day and you suddenly start feeling a rush of energy, then get swept away by a sea of joy simply for being present in life, and not stressing over all the made-up problems in your mind. You realize JUST how effortless it is to feel good.

You're happy because you're happy.

You're happy because you realize that you were never meant to obsessively stress over every single aspect of your life to begin with.

You feel that joy so intensely that it makes you want to share that sunlit happiness with others.

"Overflowing with joy" is such a perfect phrase because like a cup, your body is literally a vessel for all these wonderful emotions to effortlessly flow through and express themselves out in the world.

Which is the exact phrase, feeling, and label I give when I find myself in a really good mood

Like a hot spring, you can feel the energy well up inside you to the point where you can hardly contain it anymore. So you desperately look for a way to get it out into the world so you can immediately share that wonderful feeling with others.

It always surprises me when people find it hard to be nice because that's literally the easy part.

All you have to do is work on yourself.

This – along with the fact that it feels so fun and just so sublime. Are the biggest reasons why being nice is so incredibly easy.

And realize that you're literally with yourself EVERY SINGLE SECOND of the day for your entire life. Meaning your opportunities to grow and improve are truly endless and they are constantly occurring in every single moment.

The real struggle lies in finding the people who are worth your time to begin with. Finding the people who won't simply try to take advantage of you by seeing how much they can exploit your kind heart.

It's just like how the average person finds it difficult to make a lot of money. It doesn't matter whether or not you personally find it difficult. Anyone can see for themselves that most people in the world aren't obscenely rich and absolutely overflowing with money.

That's clearly the hard part for people. Whereas falling into bad habits, like procrastinating, being addicted to their phone, eating lousy foods, and mindlessly consuming entertainment is the easy part.

Nobody has any trouble doing those things.

That's exactly how I feel about being nice.

I find it as easy as most people find it to engage in a bunch of bad habits. Whereas finding people who are actually worth your time (i.e. kindness) is as difficult as most people find it to make a lot of money.

Finding the right people takes effort. Being nice doesn't.

The Only Obstacle is YOU

The people who truly strive to treat others well know one thing.

Personally, I've ALWAYS LOVED and lived by the adage "Treat others how you want to be treated".

It ALL starts with you.

You can never genuinely and effortlessly treat others with the highest levels of kindness, care, and respect if you don't first work on yourself.

First and foremost, that means developing self-awareness, having emotional intelligence, regularly reflecting on your behavior, and always being honest with yourself.

Being nice is easy because it’s literally ENTIRELY in your control. On the other hand, how others treat you is entirely out of your control.

On top of that, it feels so incredibly good to treat others well and to effortlessly make them happy simply by expressing yourself as you go through life.

And oh my goodness – people don't even realize that ONCE you get your baseline (emotional state) to a certain point, being happy is as effortless as blinking.

While everyone is excessively and endlessly complaining about all the negative things going on in the world. You find yourself naturally fixated on all the positive things that you absolutely love about life.

You don't spend your days ruminating on hateful thoughts about a person. It doesn't matter what they've done or who they've hurt. You don't wish harm on them.

Appreciating the things you like is as common as seeing sand at the beach.

It's not some chore to tell someone something that you know will make their day.

You're not running around in circles trying to figure out how to construct the perfectly phrased sentence for people.

It doesn't take you minutes, hours, or weeks to get over something. In a matter of seconds you're able to notice an unproductive way of thinking and then you're able to immediately change it on the spot.

People want to approach you
To be caught with a smile on your face is normal
Helping others feels easy
The little things in life are massively appreciated
Learning is incredibly fun
Giving compliments is your favorite pastime
Exercising feels amazing
Being present is your natural state of being

Simply put, being nice truly couldn't be any easier because it feels utterly amazing, and the choice to do so is entirely within your control.

Nobody determines how you think and act towards others except YOU.

Vlad 🤗